Help Yourself - Self Help Books

This is our best-seller and is useful both for couples who want to enhance a good relationship as well as improve a not-so-good one. John Gottman has studied and researched couples for many years.

What you will get out of this book; successful relationships are about emotional intelligence, not only about communication; understand and recognize the 4 horsemen: and why they are trouble; learn techniques through the self-quizzes; and learn from his research what makes a good relationship.  Available in book, CD or DVD

Making Marriage Work - DVD

Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage.  He uses rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in detail over many years for unprecedented insight into the inner workings of successful relationships.

Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious long-lasting relationship.  Learn how to build a positive dynamic with your spouse.  Hear tips for getting closer through everyday interactions, gain insight into the ways lasting marriages operate.  

If you are serious about improving your relationship, this is a must-see DVD.  The discoveries Dr. Gottman has made are insightful and you can start using the techniques straight away.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriages Work - CD
(Sound recording)

Recorded at the Pathways Lecture Series on 20/3/2006

Passionate Marriage

Another excellent book for couples who want to improve their intimacy, this is a serious, challenging read.  It challenges individuals to look at themselves in the relationship as well as their partner.  It presents theory as well as anecdotes in an interesting way.

And Baby Makes Three

Helps couples keep their relationship alive while adjusting to a baby in the family.

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage

Clients find this book useful as a complement to Seven Principles.  It is far more practical than Seven Principles.  Ten lessons using 10 couples, each with a different problem.

The Dance of Intimacy

This is an excellent book on understanding the difficulties in close relationships and looks at how women can change them in positive ways. It explores family-of-origin issues. No quick-fix strategies, but Lerner shows that change is possible.

Dance of Connection

Lerner is best known for "Dance of Anger" but this book tackles the difficult issues and gives advice on staying connected, asking questions and keeping your sense of self when the worst happens.

Love is Never Enough:
How couples can overcome misunderstandings, resolve conflicts, and solve relationship problems through cognitive therapy

Really Relating
(Australian Title)

Advice on communication and intimacy in relationships.  Practical and easy to read.

Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family and Friendships

Another Gottman book that, in an easy to read format, offers skills in communicating in families, with co-workers, in friendships, as well as with your partner.

The Art and Science of Love: Couples Workshop on 4 DVDs

This series of DVDs is designed to fit your busy lives, learn how you and your partner can better cope with life's stresses and support one another.  With guided instruction and a series of practical exercises, you'll enjoy sharing this workshop with each other.  Learn how to renew intimacy, enhance respect, and strengthen your love, commitment and friendship.  Gain lasting tools to communicate and resolve conflicts with calm and care.

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail

Dr. Gottman tells you how to recognize attitudes that doom a marriage - contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling – and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. You can avoid patterns that lead to divorce, and Why Marriages Suceed or Fail will show you how.

Divorce and New Beginnings

Dinosaurs Divorce

Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends

Helping Children Cope with Divorce

Provides good strategies for parents, including ways to minimize stress, explain the divorce, establish custody and contact, and shield children from parental conflicts

Mom’s House Dad’s House

Mom’s House Dad’s House for Kids

Ex-etiquette for Parents

Shared Parenting: Raising your children cooperatively after separation

Stepfamily Life
(Australian title)

Creative Parenting after Separation
(Australian title)

The Verbally Abusive Relationship

Violent No More

Dance of Anger

Many people consider this book to be the relationship bible.  It has been a top-selling book for about 20 years.  It is still highly recommended by counsellors.

Mirrors, Windows and Doors
(Australian title)

Kids are Worth It
(Special Import from USA)

Highly recommended by our Family Skills Program

Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager
(Special Import from USA)

Recommended by our Adolescent Family Therapy and Mediation Service (RAPS)

Raising and Emotionally Intelligent Child - Book

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child – CD
(Sound recording)

Children need to understand their emotions and the emotions of others. Drawing on two ten-year studies of more than 120 families, Dr John Gottman has developed a detailed guide to the 5 steps of emotion coaching

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child – DVD

Every parent wants to equip their child with social and emotional skills necessary to succeed in school and life. In this lively, 90 minute community talk to parents, John Gottman reveals how successful parents use “emotion coaching” with their children.

Discipline Without Shouting or Spanking

Recommended by our Family Skills Program

Co-Parenting Survival Guide

When Parents Disagree - What you can do about it

Infidelity

Mind Over Mood

Family Ties that Bind