How does your relationship rate?

Can you talk to your partner about most things? Are you a good listener or do you close down when you and your partner disagree?

Is your relationship a humdinger, humming along or ho hum? Take this quiz to see how you rate.

1. You talk to your partner about work, family, friends and day-to-day stuff, but how often do you talk about how your relationship is going?

a) Hardly ever

b) We don't need to talk - my partner instinctively knows what I need

c) Regularly

2. Which is the most true about sex do you think?

a) Having sex with your eyes open is fantastic

b) Sex? What's that?

c) Never accept anything less than a multiple orgasm swinging from the hills hoist

3. Which is the most true?

a) We do everything together

b) We lead separate lives

c) We spend time together and separately

4. Life can get pretty busy and trying to fit everything in can be difficult. When you do spend time with your partner, what do you do?

a) Do the dishes, vacuuming, renovate the house, landscape the garden by hand...

b) Regularly make a special time to do something you both enjoy

c) What time?

5. If you rated your sex life on a lust monitor would it be:

a) Bleeping wildly

b) Barely a blip

c) Reliably pulsating

6. Everyone has their own ideas about what makes a relationship work (or not work). What do you think a good relationship needs?

a) Respect, companionship, mutual emotional support, sexual expression

b) A four storey house, a limitless credit card and a yacht in the Mediterranean

c) Love, love, love

7. You come home late from work and find the kitchen looking as if a bomb has exploded in it. You are fed-up with your partner not pulling their weight around the house. What do you do?

a) This wouldn't happen in our house - we never get angry with each other

b) Fume silently but don't say anything to my partner - nothing I say will make any difference

c) Wait until I have calmed down and then talk about it

8. Do you ever think:

a) If only he/she didn't (insert your favourite annoyance), our lives would be perfect.

b) She/he's not perfect, but neither am I. Don't mind those love handles actually!

c) Every time I see him/her, its a pick-me-up.

9. Who looks after the children (now or in the future) ?

a) The one who really wanted them.

b) They're our kids so it is a shared responsibility

c) I try to help out but I don't have a lot of time to give.

10. You and your partner are at a party and there are a lot of attractive people in the room. How do you behave?

a) I love to flirt and see how far I can take it with the most attractive person in the room.

b) I am always respectful of my partner and never flirt.

c) I flirt a bit and so does my partner but we always leave together.

11. Your partner is obsessed with sport/shopping/shoes/their friends (insert relevant item here). But you don't share that obsession. Do you:

a) Leave your partner to indulge in their obsession as it is harmless and they enjoy it

b) Try to participate or support their passion by spending time with them while they are engaging in their obsession.

c) Try to convince your partner that they need to give up sport/shopping/shoes/their friends (insert obsession here)..

12. The kitchen is:

a) A great place to create a gourmet meal for my partner.

b) The room in the house most used by my partner.

c) A hub for cooking and conversation with my partner.

13. With a mortgage, car loan, credit card debt and school fees to pay, money is a bit tight. Each pay week:

a) My partner spends it all.

b) We have agreed on a budget and we both try to stick to it.

c) We each have our own accounts so I don't know where the money goes.

14. On the weekend, I see my partner:

a) Every day because we enjoy each others company.

b) Only at dinner because I am out with my friends playing golf/shopping.

c) We spend most of the weekend together but give each other some space and alone time to recharge from the week.

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